In order to wield Force and Power, one must keep their emotions in check. There is a power in not reacting. Reaction should be handled under one’s will, so that no one ever gains a foothold. To loose control into an emotional state, is a great weakness. Yet it’s hard, very hard to sit and allow someone to scream and yell.
Not all situations require a calm exterior. Sometimes we must unleash our Power in its beastly form. This, however, is a strategy that must carefully be played, to do so in the wrong situation will end in tragedy.
Allow Another to feel Hate and Anger
At times it is a good thing to feel the hate and anger from another, even if directed at one’s self. To watch them fall into the emotional mix of anger, is to know they are writhing in some inner pain. Enjoy it.
Do not forget your feelings. You will feel anger in return and you will want to burn brightly in their arrogance. But hold it for a moment, acknowledge it and let it go in the moment of the situation. Later on you can use the anger, pain and hatred in your spiritual practice. In the situation, however, do not show weakness. Do not show your emotions.
The Tiger in the Cage
My second job put me in an opportunity to work with a studio. I reported to a nice manager who was a great team builder. One year I took a few weeks off, for vacation. Most of the time I spent in meditative contemplation.
When I returned, my manager greeted me and was happy to see me.
The next day was something entirely different. As I walked in to the office, he met me and asked me to follow him to his office. There, in his office, he shut the door and began to berate me.
I was sitting across the desk from him. He stood up shouting at me. Screaming things like, “HOW DARE YOU.” Honestly, I had no idea what he was talking about.
There was this moment, where I actually felt my blood pressure. My constant meditation had put me so into the moment that I could feel my blood pressure change. Looking down at my right hand, I saw a fist.
Internally I said “No,” to my rage. My will was stronger that day, and my rage vanished. Instead of becoming triggered by the manager, I studied him. As one might observe a Tiger in a Cage. A caged tiger can not harm the viewers. All it can do is make loud growls. Even though the tiger is expressing its anger towards you (from behind its bars), would it be logical to scream back at the tiger? No.
I studied this fellow like he was my experiment. His face was flushed red, a vein was seen on his temple and his fists were clenched.
At one point the manager stops yelling, now out of breath, and mutters, “what’s wrong with you?”
“I don’t understand? What do you mean,” I calmly asked.
With a second wind he shouted, “WHY AREN’T YOU YELLING BACK?” Internally I chuckled, outwardly I pretended to be interested in his question. I decided to mind fuck him. “Why would I yell at you? How do I know what you’re really saying, after all, do any of us see things clearly?”
“Make no mistake,” he shouted, “I am yelling at you!”
“So you say,” I calmly countered, just studying him. He couldn’t believe my calm exterior and more than that, I knew in that moment I was in control. I guided his rage and I could ramp it up or turn it off. I was HIS master.
What I gained that day was knowledge. I knew then that the true power was not in grabbing a heavy object and flinging it at him, but in holding him under my proverbial thumb screws. Being in the moment, neither crying, depressed, outraged or hateful, I just observed my opponent – like a tiger in a cage.
It turned out that he was enraged over a misunderstanding of something he thought I did (but didn’t do). Now he felt guilt. As long as that guilt was there, I had a hold over him. I didn’t act on it, but I always remembered this lesson of control.